I now think that 2 is the only reasonable choice to make, even as a man в staying single my whole life в until and unless I find the woman whom I cannot live without, the woman who is a true companion to me. That said, I would be fully aware that Mormonism is going to compel even the best of them to do some truly horrendous stuff at times. I'd just like to add that unless you're happy being with her as a full believing Mormon, don't stick around in the hopes that she'll de-convert.
A lot of what you say about Support was what I expected to find in residency. As a matter of fact, you can begin here. I like to think that what you said really resonated with her. I am becoming more lonely now than before. No one could compare to the man I married. I have given up my career to stay with the kids and lonely is most cetainly my new reality. His hospital "family" protected this information well, silently acquiescing and even approving his behavior. Because of the nature of this job, it was not uncommon for him to be at the hospital overnight or to be called back in for an emergency surgery. Long story short, everyone is dead on.
Again, though the evolving times may have brought about a relaxation in this rule, it is still followed by many youngsters. Stages of a Healthy Relationship. If you want to go against that trend, one of you will almost certainly change perspective.
There have been times in the last three years that we have had to live paycheck to paycheck so the idea of a rich doctor is antiquated in most cases. In areas with lots of single Mormons of dating and marriageable age, the Church has established singles wards. LDSdotOrg is mostly propaganda. Finally, the decision of whom you marry is really between you and God. If you want him - he is part of a medical school package right now, and likely will be for some time to come.